Everyone is looking for the perfect men. Here are some fundamental rules that woman must understand and accept in order to stop making foolish choices
Rule #1 – There are no Perfect Men
This men is a romantic fiction. He doesn’t exist. But there is a wondrous supply of really solid men out there.
Rule #2 – Exciting Men can make women miserable
Women who confuse longing with love will pay a terrible price, because some men are afraid of genuine intimacy.
Rule #3 – Reforming a man is usually futile
Women have more rewarding things to do with their lives than make their lovers a life-time “project”.
Rule #4 – Growing up means giving up Daddy
Men want an adult lover, a friend and a partner – not a surrogate daughter. Childlike women drive most men away.
Rule #5 – Anger scares men off
Women who start new love affairs filled with old anger and resentments turn men off
Rule #6 – No man can give a woman self-esteem
Men don’t want to be counted on to rescue women or be their salvation.
Rule #7 – Many good men go unnoticed
People’s best qualities usually reveal themselves over time
Rule #8 – Fewer expectations lead to greater aliveness
An open, nonjudgmental attitude allows for delightful surprises in life.
Rule #9 – Fully realized women are strong and tender
Strength mingled with tenderness is a magic combination. The smart woman feels good about her womanliness.
Rule #10 – The game of courtship is delightful
Women who get the men they want don’t fight mating rituals; rather they enjoy courtship within the context of their own particular style.
Rule #11 – “Finding” takes initiative
The smart woman doesn’t wait for good fortune, she creates it. She learns to enjoy the process of courting without undue focus on eventual outcomes.
Rule #12 – Men like women who like men
If you allow yourself to let men know you like them, they will sense it. This warmth and acceptance is the best catalyst for creating chemistry.
Rule #13 – Women who really listen are irresistible
Even if they don’t admit it, most men enjoy needing a woman. They need someone to talk to, someone with whom they feel comfortable.
Rule #14 – Romantic tension keeps relationship alive
In a relationship , we are most alive when we don’t take our mate for granted. A little uncertainty keeps men stimulated and interested.
Rule #15 – Men do want to commit
It is a myth that men don’t commit to relationships; they only appear that way. A smart woman is aware that the shock of an ultimatum may be what is needed to make a man aware.
Rule #16 – Women are responsible for their own experience.
The smart woman is aware that she can create her own destiny and thus works hard at what she wants and needs.
Making smart choices – finding a perfect men and avoiding the wrong men – requires a woman to have the courage.