There are many unknown territories in the world, but the most misunderstood is age gap relationships. It shouldn’t be, at least not based on what is taught since childhood. Every child grows up with the notion that “love is blind“. This includes race, ethnic background, and looks. But, what happened to adding “age” onto that list? Was it conveniently forgotten because it’s not accepted?
It helps to understand that the average age gap in marriages is 3.5 years. This means that children relate relationships to the only one that they know, their parents. And if “mom and dad” are close in age, then that’s how it’s supposed to be, right? Actually, this couldn’t be farther from the truth.
If you ask a person who is actively involved in this type of relationship, you will find that everyone has a legitimate reason for it. The most common age gap relationship that you’ll see is a younger woman with an older man. It’s an instant response to think of him as a “cradle-robber”. But, what if he wasn’t the one who made the initial move? In most cases, a woman has had a past experience with a man close in age and the chemistry was nonexistent. Maybe it’s due to the maturity level? Regardless of the reason, through trials and experience, this woman figured out that she seems to connect more with an older man. The fact is, an age gap in a relationship really doesn’t mean very much when love and chemistry exist.
But, what’s in an age? Many believe that experience and insight are derived from the years under your belt. As you become older, your maturity level grows. Because of this, most would never give the chance of a first date to someone younger. The same as an elder doesn’t believe that a person 10 years junior could have similar interests. However, as you know, age is only a number and it does not determine maturity level or desires. So, it’s very possible for a 50 year old man to want the same things in life as a 30 year old woman.
This explains that type of relationship, but what if the gender roles were reversed? Older women who enjoy younger men are often referred to as “cougars”. This is because a cougar prowls on young cubs, more for sexual desires than food. Regardless, it’s commonly misunderstood for being a relationship headed for disaster. Who would want a mother rather than a wife? However, this is just another preconceived notion that age gap relationships are unable to be successful.
From a man’s point of view, being involved with a woman of maturity compliments their personality. Older women offer experience and wisdom, which some men find sexy, opposed to “girls their age”. As for the women, most of them say that their younger spouse has “life and enthusiasm”, something that most men from their past had lacked.
In reality, age gap relationships are becoming more and more common. So, before believing that these types of unions are doomed; think about your own reasons and see if you wouldn’t be open to it.