I may be a little bit old-fashioned, but I do believe that on-line dating is not the only solution to meet your soul mate. There are still plenty of opportunities to find quality partners all over the place. I mean, people did meet somehow before the internet era, didn’t they?
How did they do it in ‘the old days’
Let’s think how did it usually happen…
It would probably be that one would meet the other one somehow in flesh– either through friends or at work or through family maybe. Gradually, as time passed by, magic would somehow happen and one person would fall for another or better yet – they would fall for each other.
Now, you’ll say – “That is easier said than done”. And it is indeed. Because in all fairness – how would you know whom to fall for? Whom to spend time with? You would not know – would you?
But all these generations before the internet era did not know either. Just like us now, they were plodding on through life hoping to find true love and happiness, hoping to find someone who would be their other half. Just like us now, when they were meeting THE person for the first time, they didn’t usually know it was THE person. But eventually, they were finding out and were falling for each other.
We can do the same!
How to do it in the modern era
We can meet our soul mates in reality just as well. We can fall for them, let them fall for us and enjoy the love as if internet has never existed.
The only thing we have to do to make it happen is meet people. We have to meet people and spend quality time with them so that we have a chance to fall for them and so that they have a chance to fall for us.
And not just meet one person. We should meet many people. In the modern era of internet we spend so much time glued to screens that we are spending very little time actually interacting with other people. But meeting the right person is like looking well… for a needle in a hay stack by looking at once only at a couple of straws.
So, to be successful, we should meet many people. The more we meet – the bigger our chances of finding a match.
How to meet people then?
Instead of sitting alone at home, we should go outside – spend time on interaction. On the next weekend, instead of sitting in front of the tv, we should go out for a walk – a real walk – at least couple of hours long walk – with some friends. Let’s go to the sea-side, or on a mountain hike, or on a walk by the lake or around the biggest park in town or wherever it is that people go for walks in your area. Take your friends with you – the more the better. Let’s move our rusty bones in a bit of sun. After that, we can rest in a bar of a cafe or a nice restaurant and have a good dinner – we will be starving. During that time we can talk and enjoy our company. It’s going to be really nice.
Than take some more or other friends to the opera or a theater or somewhere on Sunday. Your friends will invite other friends and there will be more and more of you. Then if someone invites us to go somewhere or do something on a different day, we will say “Yes! I’d love to!” and so we will meet even more people, whom in turn we can invite somewhere and they can bring people and so on… We will actually have such an engaging social life it will be difficult to even think about looking for more on the internet. Maybe just to add newly met to Facebook or something.
With each person you meet, your circle of friends will increase and so will the chances that somewhere among all these people there will be THE one.
Just do not meet everyone with the question “Is he/she the one??” in your mind. Be happy to have more and more friends. Friends are a bliss – love them. Finally it will happen for you and one of the friends will become something more.
That’s how people used to find love and that’s how it can still be found!