This is a very common question. Should eyes be open or closed during kissing? Yet the answer is not straightforward.
The most common conception is that the eyes should be closed – you’re supposed to lose yourself in a kiss. But the truth is it all depends.
It depends on a kiss
Long french kisses – eyes closed
Of course if you are french kissing for long minutes, it’s much better if your eyes are closed. Otherwise you’ll simply look silly. French kissing with open eyes is even called ‘fish-kissing’ from the fact that fish do not have eye lids and never close eyes.
Also, you will get distracted by what you see – half of your partners cheek, an ear, some hair maybe, a poster on the wall, a tv show.
Futhrer, If you both had your eyes open, what should you look at – in each other eyes under the strange angle you’ll be in? It does not make sense.
Long kisses – eyes closed!
When your eyes are closed, you can then focus on what is going on between you and your partner. Focus on your mouths and tongues, on the touch, hugging, stroking and caressing. Keeping your eyes closed will make you a better kisser.
Quick kiss – eyes open
All these peck type kisses: good night and good morning kisses, can easily be done with open eyes. They are so brief, that all the problems which arise during long kisses, do not have a chance to show up here.
Actually, in many situations it makes perfect sense to have eyes open and remain vigilant during the kiss. For example if you kiss on the street, while walking or in a crowded bar or other place, you would not want to lose sight of your surrounding. It’s a noble thing to die for love but let’s leave that for characters in books and movies – you do not want to walk under a car with your beloved while kissing.
What if it’s not a long french kiss but not a quick peck either? What if it’s somewhere in the middle? Should your eyes be open or closed then.
Well… well leave that to your own judgement..
Depending on the safety of the surrounding, the atmosphere, the length and intensity of the kiss, you should make a decision what is best.