Everyone seems to know how to kiss well… you see couples kissing in the park, while walking on the street, in the movies. If kissing is something so natural, why does it seem so difficult? Shouldn’t it be something spontaneous? Well, yes, in a perfect world maybe! The thing is we aren’t born knowing how to kiss. And this is why the first time we are dealing with this situation, we feel awkward and out of place. Is it possible to improve? Yes, it is! Here we’ll tell you how.
Watch and learn!
I bet the first time you learned how to ride a bike you spent hours looking at your big brother spinning round the block. Children learning the alphabet, artists learning a new technique, all of them watch experts perform in front of them. If you want to learn how to kiss well, you should do it too!
However, that doesn’t mean you need to be a Pipping Tom! That’s grouse and you could even get punched on the face! What you may do, is rent as many romantic movies as possible, and spend some time watching the kissing scenes. Pay attention to the following details: how do they place their mouths? What do they do with their hands? A romantic kiss may involve hair caressing, for example.
Believe it or not, even though these kisses are given by professional actors and actresses, you have an advantage over them! That’s right: spontaneity!
Ask the expert
Have you got any friends with more experience? You may be ashamed to ask them for advice, but remember their first kiss was probably weird too. Ok, you may expect some laughter at first (especially if you are a boy and talk to other boys). However, if the person you go to is a close friend of you, he or she will feel flattered and ready to share their wisdom with you!
It is possible to practice kissing on your own. You don’t even need a mirror, or the back of your hand. Just lie down in bed, eyes closed, and picture yourself in the situation. Seconds before the kiss, what’s going on? What are you and the other person talking about? Is he or she looking into your eyes? Are you smiling or are you serious? Vary these details every time you do this little visualization. This way, you are preparing yourself for the situation, even though it may end up turning in ways you never imagined it!
If you have already done some kissing, and it didn’t turn quite as you’ve expected, take it easy! As we said before, no one is born a kissing expert. You’ll get there! You will learn how to kiss well by trying once and again.